305. Out of Control Parenting
Apr 08, 2026
What if you could make parenting easier? Would you do it? The way you are as a parent is so judged and controlled in this reality that there is no fun in it at all.
In this episode of Choice, Change and Action, Simone Milasas talks with Pam Grace about parenting, specifically parenting with more ease using the tools of Conscious Parents Conscious Kids.
It takes courage to be a different parent. In this reality, parenting is about controlling your kids so they will be the way you would like them to be so you are not judged. When you become aware that there may be a different way, it's like unlearning parenting. But what if you could just relax with it all?
Questions And Tools:
- Relax.
- Acknowledge that every kid is different.
- Stop judging your child.
- Have allowance for you and your kids.
- Be interesting point of view.
- Look at what is working for you and what is not working for you, and what can you choose different here?
- Follow what you know.
- Be willing to be a bad parent. Be willing to be everything others are judging you as, without judging yourself.
- Stop trying to get things right.
- Be out of control.
- Give your kids choice.
- Manipulate - it’s a kinder, gentler way that is going to create a greater outcome for everyone.
- Empower your kids. Ask them, "What do you know?"
- Ask your kids questions, without expecting an answer.
- Say nothing.
- Choose for you. It shows your kids that they can choose for themselves too.
- Get your Bars run.
- Invite your kids to get their Bars run.
- Baby steps - it may take a while to change the way you parent, and what works today may not work tomorrow, so be kind to yourself.
Ask:
- “What can I choose different here?”
- "I'm such a bad mum/dad. What can I do to make up for the damage done?"
- "Wht do my kids know that I haven't been willing to receive?"
- "Is anything actually required of me here?"
- "What can I choose here that will work?"
As Mentioned In This Episode:
- El Lugar: https://ellugar.com
- Conscious Parenting Conscious Kids: https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/micrositesfolder/conscious-parents-conscious-kids
- Access Bars: https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/micrositesfolder/accessbars
- The undefined Parent - Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/951803727519019
- Conscious Parents Conscious Kids Series with Pam Grace: https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/class-catalog/access-special-classes/conscious-parents-conscious-kids/conscious-parenting-conscious-kids---series_639108108885515478/details
- Conscious Parents Conscious Kids book: https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/shop-catalog/book/conscious-parents-conscious-kids-all-profits-donated-to-access-possibilities-school
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- Access Consciousness Website
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